Stay present, live in the now, don’t look back - follow these claims, and you’ll enter eternal bliss. Countless self-help manuals, spiritual guides and new age commandments repeat the exact words, the holy grail of happiness. Is it really that simple, and what does it mean? And what if I told you that it’s NOT TRUE?

What do you think about yourself, most of the time? Do you feel good about yourself only when other people praise you? Do you feel like you know who you are? Do you feel like there are situations where you cannot be yourself? Do you think you own your life, or do you feel others make decisions for you? If you often feel disempowered and powerless, you might want to check how you set your boundaries.

Lockdown. Virus. Distance. Confinement. Isolation. These words bring feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, frustration… And the count goes on. Even dreaming seems ridiculous. Planning holidays? Taking up a salsa class? Joining a choir? It feels like we’ve been deprived of the joy of dreaming and anticipation. Maybe we’ve been thinking of starting a new hobby for years, but only now it feels like it is no longer our choice NOT to do that. And precisely at this very moment, we want to!

I said, yes. And it hurt. I hurt. Both of us. How could I know that if I agreed to something it would bring so much pain? I only wanted you to be happy. I didn’t want to cause problems. I thought I was bigger than this petty argument.

Feeling overwhelmed, restless, reactive, stressed, stuck? Or maybe numb, apathetic, without energy? Perhaps you struggle with chronic pain or trauma? I know how it feels. And one of the potent ways to balance the nervous system I use is TRE®.

I set off for a walk in the forest behind my Ibiza home. Barefoot. It felt wonderful. The walk became my daily routine, and no splinter in my heel nor pouring rain over my head would stop me from doing it for months.